By Tanya Bricking
The Honolulu Advertiser
If you're tired of waiting for your man to ask for your hand, a new survey says it's OK to retire the time-worn idea of being a "lady in waiting."
About 65 percent of Americans welcome the idea of a woman proposing marriage to a man, and 77 percent of men say it's socially acceptable for women to pop the question, according to a new survey from Korbel Champagne Cellars.
The idea of reversing traditional roles is something Kolleen O'Flaherty Wheeler has been waiting for years to catch on.
She's a nondenominational minister in Hawaii who runs a wedding-planning business. She also proposed to her husband, photographer Bruce Wheeler, two decades ago.
"I don't know if it's currently popular," she says, "but I know 20 years ago it worked."
The one thing a woman planning to propose might want to be careful of is causing a blow to her guy's ego, said Jason Rich, author of Will You Marry Me? Popping the Question with Romance and Style (New Page Books; $13.99).
His book gives proposal tips to men and women in gay or straight relationships.
And in the case of a woman proposing to a man, there's definitely a movement toward more equal relationship roles, he said. Girlfriends are even buying their guys engagement jewelry instead of waiting for the man to pull out a diamond ring.
"Most guys would be totally comfortable having their girlfriend propose to them," he says. "They might even be relieved."
Almost half of women (48 percent) would propose to their significant others.
Four of every five men would accept a proposal from their significant others.
About one in every three Americans (31 percent) know a woman who has proposed.
Source: Korbel Champagne Cellars
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